October is about halfway over so I figured I’d do an update of some sort. It seems our life is pretty boring but maybe I’ll find something interesting if I remember to document what we’ve been doing.
First of all — THIRD TRIMESTER. So crazy to think we are in the home stretch. I’m excited to see the small numbers in the baby countdown but I try not to look at the numbers too much because I’ll get crippling anxiety for a few minutes thinking about more things to do to prepare. Yikes.
We’ve been working on L’s room more. We got her another bookshelf and put up more decorations. It’s not totally finished yet, I have a short list of things to finish up but I’m not totally stressing over this list anymore. She will be sleeping in our bed for the first few months at least anyway. Yes, we are going to be co-sleeping. It is the main reason we invested in a king size bed months ago, so a small co-sleeper can fit comfortably in the bed with us. Co-sleeping is also the reason why Rory hasn’t been allowed to sleep in the bed with us in the new house, we are training her for when baby comes. Rory’s bed and blanket are on the floor directly by my side of the bed so she sleeps there and I can put my hand down and pet her easily.
We hosted some friends over to our house for our first social gathering a few weekends ago. I made some butternut squash veggie chili and all the guests brought over some side dishes to share and we had a wonderful meal and watched some football. It was fun hosting a little party. We were thinking of hosting a Halloween party, but ultimately decided not to. We are going to stay home, hopefully dress-up, and hand out candy that night. I’m so excited to live in our community because there will be so many trick-or-treaters. I can’t wait to see the kids all dressed up.
We have finished all our diaper purchases. We are going to cloth diaper. L will be in disposables until her cord falls off and she can fit comfortably in the diapers (I didn’t order any newborn cloth diapers because she’ll only be in those a short time). I researched cloth diapers for a loooooong time before we made the decision to invest. My frugality is the main reason for this, although I’d like to say the main reason is the environmental or baby friendliness of cloth. When I find ways to save, I’ll take it (why I’ve been making my own laundry detergent/household cleaners/etc for a long time now). We will be saving hundreds of dollars, I feel like I can handle some extra laundry (water/electricity bills do not go up drastically with the extra loads you have to do for CD, maybe a dollar or two). But anyway, the diapers are so cute. I got a variety of different kinds so we can see what she fits/likes best and then we might invest in more of whatever seems the favorite. I’ve been purchasing them little by little when I see a sale – and this past weekend we did our final bulk order (with online Columbus Day sales that saved us a ton) of the last items we needed, mostly wipes, wetbags, pail liners, & other “accessories” — can’t wait for it to arrive. I’ll be making homemade wipe spray to use with our cloth wipes. The only thing we have not purchased yet is a diaper sprayer, but we won’t need that until she starts solids.
Okay, let’s talk about something else. When I start talking about that stuff, even though I’m happy we are doing it & it feels right for our family, I start feeling like L.N. from Away We Go – “why would I want to push my baby away from me?” I swear, we aren’t crazy continuum people, although, we are more or less following attachment-parenting guidelines without actually studying attachment-parenting. People have really strong opinions about these things so I don’t usually bring it up unless directly asked. You’d be amazed what people say on birth forums about different parenting styles — people are crazy. I say, as long as your baby is happy & healthy, you do what works for you.*
I purchased Christmas stockings today. Our first as a family since this will be the first Christmas we spend in our first home, as a married couple & expectant parents. John and I have both only ever had our childhood stockings, although John did get a matching family one from my parents at their house… ha! I’m so excited to spend our first (and last) Christmas just the two of us.** We are going to be able to start our own traditions instead of what we’ve always done with our families. If you know us, and chances are you do if you’re reading this blog, you know we love Christmas. We can’t wait!
Let’s stop the Christmas talk — it’s not even Halloween. I knoooow.
*I am also entirely aware that once L gets here, all our plans could drastically change. That is why I never say never when it comes to baby things. We have an outline to be prepared but we are mostly preparing for things to change. We are smart people, we know having a baby changes everything.
**I will actually be full-term (37 weeks) before Christmas, so if L decides to make an early appearance, she may or may not be here for Christmas this year. I’m hoping she stays put until New Year’s at least. :)